CHANTEL PAULSEN IS A SUCCESS COACH, ENTREPRENEUR, AND WORKING MAMA WITH A BALANCED LIFE WHO, AT ONE POINT, WAS OVERWEIGHT, LOST AND OVERWHELMED.
You may be feeling defeated, burned-out, and unconfident. That is something I am familiar with. You also may not want to hire a success coach unless you knew that they had been through some shit. I know that means I need to share some of me with you because I know the power of vulnerability and I expect clients to embrace that. Even if it’s not always pretty.
My parents had an ugly divorce when I was five. The last memory I have of their marriage was a wrestling match on the floor, and the cops being called. They both remarried by the time I was six. My determination to get my parents back together led me to lie and say my stepdad was abusive. There was a future of social workers, cops and a lot of tears. My biological dad tried to make up for my sadness by spoiling me with favorite cd’s, name-brand clothing and a lot of sugar. He committed suicide on my stepdad’s birthday when I was 12.
When I was 21, I fell in love with a small-town country boy in a college town. Love is blind. Within the year, I was pregnant. With a baby on the way, marriage seemed like the best choice. Two weeks before the wedding, I miscarried. We went ahead with the wedding. Less than a year into our marriage, he said he was an alcoholic. We tried and succeeded in a second pregnancy. My beautiful boy Jack came into the world. Then there was a year of my husband doing heroine, selling prescription pills and having sex with other women.
When I left, I moved in with my parents for a year. With an education, but a complete loss of confidence, I started a phone sales job.
I was a busy single mom for years.
I fell in love again. After a couple years of what I thought was near perfection, my boyfriend decided our life wasn’t what he wanted. Then he claimed he was out of his mind, came back and proposed. Less than 24-hours later, he left all over again.
These experiences left me feeling unwanted and unloved. This limiting belief resurfaces. I now know how to work through these thoughts to get to a healthy place full of truth.
My son and I gained a relationship that may be hard to distinguish between a friendship or parent-child.
At the phone sales company, I gained a hunger to learn and grow. I tried and succeeded over and over. I have written new job descriptions, created new processes and positions and kicked ass in my career. I’ve stayed with this company for 7 years. Now I use my skills to career coach others at that same company. I get to pass on tools to help employees learn and grow. I develop learning and skill development programs to help others become more confident in their jobs and lives.
During the hurricane of my last break up, an old close friend listened to me sob over tequila. That friend waited patiently for me to heal. Turns out, that friend had waited patiently for me to love him the way he loved me for ten years. That friend is my husband. He married me in a castle in Ireland. We made our sweet little boy, Jude.
Between the failed marriage and the journey to a better life, I lost control of my health. One day, I decided I was done. I reinvented my favorite recipes to contain healthy ingredients for my body. I found workout programs that I could do at home with my child. I created systems full of balance that allowed me to shed my stress pounds, and gain control of my health. I lost forty pounds. Now I don’t own a scale because I know how I feel. I feel strong, energetic and confident.
My love story is idyllic but not without struggle. My career is incredible but not without sweat. My health is on point but not without diligence. I have tried, failed and tried again. I have systems for systems upon systems. I know what works for me to maintain balance in every area of my life and I want nothing more than that for you.
Today, I coach working moms struggling to find balance in their own lives. I help them break free of their liming beliefs so they move forward towards their goals by getting into action while finding peace and flow. I am a certified coach who specializes in balance, money mindset, success mindset and I help busy passionate moms create a balanced life they love.